Is it right…? : Generalizations

LaShawn Encarnacion

Generalizations happen every day and they carry heavy consequences with them.

For example, is it right for society to make them about a specific gender?

A generalization some make is that women set themselves up for rape with how they dress.

According to the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network, there is no statistic proving that the way a women dresses causes rape. Anyone who puts these two together needs to research the facts before making that assumption, because of the potential damage their comments can cause to ladies who can be offended by this generalization. Is it right, no. But these generalizations are made anyway, and they can carry repercussions with them, such as hatred towards men.

Another generalization is that men are not susceptible to crimes against them, including rape.

There are men out there who are genuine, sensitive and don’t believe in violence. Men can become victims too. A RAINN study found that 2.78 million men in the U.S. have been victims of sexual assault or rape. It does not make them any less of a man, it just means that they were forced into an act they did not want to perform.

Yet, some people in society frown upon things like this, saying that it is well beyond impossible. The damage of this generalization is major and can lead to homicide and suicide.

So before you generalize men who have been victims of rape as weak, understand the facts and try to have an open mind. Rape victims are both men and women.

A common generalization thrown around for men is that they are all “dogs” when it comes to how they talk to women. Some men make comments about how “she must be on that time of the month” when a woman is having an attitude, or automatically assume that a woman is easy because she is wearing very subjective clothing.

Do we as men stop and think before we speak? Most of us do. But unfortunately, some of us don’t, which leads to some women bashing our gender as a whole, calling all men “dogs, ignorant and incapable of having coherent rational thoughts.” Because of a few, an entire gender is crucified.

This generalization is not only an unfair one, but it is one of the most common I hear every day. Men can react by isolating themselves from trusting women, or react aggressively and act out violent tendencies like rape, or worse.

A common generalization thrown around for women is that they are all innocent and they are not capable of doing wrong when it comes to men and relationships.

It takes two to make a relationship go right. But it also takes two to make a relationship go wrong.

While men may be the persecuted cheaters, what pushes a man to cheat? And is it the man that always cheats? That should be the question and here’s why: In some personal experiences I’ve witnessed, women who are frustrated in their relationship can’t communicate with their companion, and so they look for the easy way out: adultery.

Women try to justify their adultery as valid, saying things like “My lover listens to me, he makes me forget about the arguing and fighting I do with my husband,” and, “I can communicate with my lover better than my husband.”

The fact of the matter is if the relationship gets to the point of adultery, then signs of trouble have long been there. No matter the circumstances, even if there are kids involved, a break-up is inevitable.

These are just a few generalizations that go on, and while they happen every day, they also carry consequences that may hurt and scar people for years to come.